Duplets beatific marriage

Today marks the 40th wedding anniversary of a couple in Shepparton, floodplain of the Goulburn River in northern Melbourne. The two have defied the odds of modern society to successfully and faithfully stuck together through thick and thin. Husband was my high school teacher and wife my elementary teacher, thats how I’m closely connected to them as a person in addition for them being family friends. So when they dropped me an email a fortnight ago inviting me for the occasion, I was gutted as I knewit wasn’t possible to attend but took time since then to engage them and finding out how they’ve survived all these years. While they know that not everyone who has tied the knot is successful, the wife acknowledged marriage is like a rocky road at times so a married man or woman need the appropriate mental, physical skills to be tolerance, empathy, similar moral and ethical values and filled with lashings of kindness.They have got a lovely marriage and it is not easy at times, particularly bringing up their kids was difficult as one of their son joined a gang as a teenager and although he quit, his education was a failure, his reputation was shattered but luckily I was told he is now working in his own garage and making a living.The husband noted pressures of mortgages and financial stuff and other stuff that gets in the way, but eventually he says it is really worthwhile and your blogger should venture into that life. Of cause I couldn’t say no but never said yes since I’m allergic to anything called or related to marriage. The word itself makes me nauseous. Since they got married, art has played a key role in them sticking together and notably a poem about the oak and the elm. In her husband’s view, married people nowadays stand together so close that one shades the other but for him and the wife, they have since day one, allowed each other stand apart and grow into their own tree so that they don't shadow each other. 

The wife retired from teaching and ventured into farming business and the husband quit to start his own packaging business that caters for fruit exporters to Asian countries. They both admitted that is really important to let the other person be themselves. But that reasoning the lovely couple has, doesn’t ring in the mind of fillies and general younger women we see today, no wonder marriages have become irrelevant. Forget about the royal wedding yesterday, thats an elitist process, common man can’t stand up to stresses of marriages and relationships as they are full of deceit, pain and in some cases deaths.Their advice to other couples in the married life is to stay the course as things will get rocky, bumpy, but if both do honestly love each other, both will overcome those things.Those who are married have to understand that life is going to throw certain things in their way and they're not necessarily marriage breakers and she said couples have to work together to find a way around them or over them and it is so well worth it in the end.Their success as they celebrate 40th anniversary is tolerance in different ways from change in body shape, acknowledge each other’s achievements and willingness to compromise and negotiate differing point of views. Interestingly, they are able to resolve conflicts effectively, being able to ride out challenging times and have perfected the ability to kind of trust each other. They also ask each other for help and give the right kind of help when it's needed which to them have kept their ticking over, irrespective of four decades the couples have been together. I celebrate their marriage as a friend, family friends and more importantly, as the two intellectuals who played a significant role in teaching and empowering me as a tween and teen. This article first appeared here