Mythos of lovey-dovey in the hood

Lovebirds in our nabe have taken love to another level, in nowadays largely superficial dating scene, the thought of romance has become uncool. That’s not the case with whippersnappers in the hood who occasionally have shown all they want to be swept off their feet.To them, the fear of wearingtheir hearts on their sleeves which in turn prohibits dating from turning up the romance, doesn’t exist. One of them told me dating is easy but finding the one is hard.As the hood’s most widely know casanova, he says that finding or maintaining a successful relationship comes down to trust, communication, and compromise. According to him, some of the biggest mistakes that youngsters dating make on first dates happen during the getting to know you conversation. Most of his fellow casanovas are too eager to talk about their past, break-ups, work in detail and then want to probe potential partners deeply on their past relationships and finances. All this during a would-be romantic meeting.Success in him love game didn’t come without learning from mistakes and says he doesn’t overshare and whether his target is interested or not, he never open all his books on the first date. His art of love dictates that he make his target curious. Popsies love a challenge and best way is to ease into important discussions after you find out if you’ve got a romantic spark.He has taught all love-covey in his network to abandon their penchant for matching partners and instead focus about how individual and a potential partner might compliment each other.If lovey-dovey likes to travel in the outback, then he or she shouldn’t dismiss someone who craves the nightclub life. His view is that for guys looking for popsies, they should be willing to consider the occasional comprise on vacations.Opening up to any possibility is the starting point for a successful romantic relationship. Any time I go out, I dress well, dress cute. Once i’m out, I never know who i’ll meet or where his soul mate is, he saidThe loverboy believes that finding love at first sight is a bit of inappropriate and most popsies actually need about one and half minute of interaction before sussing up, while men like him need only about one minute before deciding whether they like a popsy.

 As I listened to his mythos, his secrets are that when he likes a popsy, eye contact makes it interesting and advises that as a bloke, you have to show it with the eyes and get your flirt on. When falling in love, a person’s pupils will dilate and therefore hiding eyes only hides a strong signal of interestfrom a potential paramour. Loverboy said that whenever he’s targeting a popsy, he makes direct eye contact for a couple of seconds before breaking off his glance. Some popsies are very visual and fall in love through the eyes while others fall in love through aural cues, loverboy added.Analyzing his theories, some plain wishes, its clear the callousness, lack of emotional intelligence and lustful brutishness is no different in the neighborhood from how it’s always been with other folks out there.However as customs change and sexual access to popsies has become almost unfettered, whippersnappers like him just have more rope to be crass jerks. My late Uncle used to tell me as a tween that back in the days, manners were more central to social interaction and popsies were mired in a patriarchal society and in his generation, blokes had to put effort into a pursuit of the prize assets of popsies. In today’s settings, as this loverboy in the hood demonstrated, it’s open season where a hormonal vicenarian male won’t say no to rumpy-pumpy encounters.They have fully embraced the midnight booty texts, penis and vagina images sharing, pizza and beer culture. On the other hand, female desire for emotional intimacy and romance no longer exist, its stupid to even think it about it. Popsies have gained agency overtheir sexuality, it’s a convenient new model where casual sex wrapped in indifferent treatment is working for a lot of young females. As we ended our chinwag, the loverboy said that when one-night stands suit both participants, there’s no harm. He believes  that era where sex without sensuality or any sense of being valued feels unfulfilling for a woman, has become part of the so called lovebirds lives and craving for emotional connection is no longer an issue. In his own view, romance where popsies want to feel they’re the centre of a bloke’s world, is dead and buried. This article first appeared here