Cock and bull story of a skirt-chaser

Terminological inexactitudes are part of love relationships. In the era of alternative facts, they’ve become mainstream and wasn’t flabbergasted when a skirt chaser unleashed figment of the imagination about his dexterity in carnal knowledge for self-aggrandizement.It can be hard to determine whether skirt chaser achieves what he claims or not, as the only person actually telling me outright, its impossible to separate fiction from facts. And since he seems to be forthright with his romantic feelings about his girlfriend nowadays, he is going to have to instead look for signs he's a philanderer or not. Pain in the butt for girlfriend? Perhaps yes, perhaps no. Would I say he is prevalent characteristic of modern loverboy?I think yes.As a bloke myself, the tell-tale actions blokes tend to do when they like a girl are different from a decade ago. Nowadays, its about being like a porn star in bed, bragging about both the marathons and sprints.The days when girls played hard to get strategy is long gone, new very veiled methods difficult to decipher are the norm. Though somewhat counter-intuitive, it's just what blokes do these days. Blokes want girls to find them impressive, and most of them go about the wrong way by bragging like that skirt chaser who was trying to boast about his escapades. He went overboard and came across as a bloke with full purpose of creating an impression about his fornication life.I come from a school of thought where displaying modesty is a good thing, for men or women. I feel that when I am usually comfortable with a part of my life I don't have to brag about how great it is, because I already know.As one of my Japanese friend once told me that kind of life doesn't get a person on reality television shows, but as a 20th century bloke, thats how i like it. People who don't display humility like the skirt chaser tend to be awful braggarts with a severe narcissistic streak.Listening to the skirt chaser, it was easy for me accept the idea that he is not understanding, emotional and empathetic, and is happy to constantly portray girlfriend as standing in the background for the sake of experiencing his bedroom skills.The source of his girlfriend’s humility in my view has more to do with her supposed empathy that with societal norms forced upon her by the boyfriend.Overall I was dismayed by our interaction, he was unruly with his mouth. When I told him he had a lovely sex life he replied, “No, I don’t. There are lots of other skirt chasers like me at the neighborhood who are much better.” Wait, what’s that pain?! Oh, only my heart wrenching! It was so sad to see that at such a young age he’d already been socialized to display false modesty about his sex life.

My distress also came from the fact that I could easily imagine how he’d come to think this was the correct thing to do, as I recognized in his reaction.I'm a bloke and know plenty of blokes who brag either because they’ve some good looking girl, deep pockets or are handsome. It's just a subtle type of bragging-whether it's how great their cars are or girl is. I know girls who brag as well, I think it has everything about skirt chaser’s personality. I do not advocate that with being good in bed should be treated like some sort of heinous crime, it’s not surprising that so many of us downplay our achievements. Much of skirt chaser bragging can be traced back to childhood socialization, he wasn’t raised like a modest boy, it was acceptable for him to talk about himself and family’s wealth during our schooling in elementary school.Simply put, skirt chaser’s bragging enhances his egotistic expectations in presence of your blogger, his childhood friend.His self denigration which has turned into self-hate oneupmanship is buffoonery and needs to stop. Although there is definitely a reasonable way for self-denigration culture in our societies, especially among well off blokes, there is in my opinion a difference between being honest about own achievements or talents and bragging. Undoubtedly it is possible to tell others about a triumph or acknowledge a compliment without seeming self-obsessed, and it is this that needs to be encouraged, especially in blokes who see themselves as sex experts.While we are no longer in the schoolyards of Melbourne, our conversation showed that even when he has grown up there’s still a stigma attached to him acknowledging anything positive about himself especially about sex. It is seems common for him to have to resort to the front door brag when tooting his own horn about bed races.He thinks that self promotion makes him look more competent and is therefore an asset in getting his girlfriend impressed, he behaves in this confident and assertive manner. Being who I am, I believe that the skirt chaser has a right to own his achievements in bed and need to be proud of what he can do to any skirtie for that matter. Arguably, I could be too conservative to even think of listening to such brags again but perhaps I need to stop seeing it as bragging in order to change the connotation that bragging about sex isn’t cool. Who knows, if I can stop seeing it as bragging, and start seeing it as a fair assessment and acknowledgement of skirt chaser’s strengths and talents, I could end up being one of those with less self-effacing tune and appreciating skirt chasers bonking skills stories along the way.